“On changing the past – How can you change the past except in fantasy? And who can give you what you think the past deprived you of? The past is nothing. Do not seek to lay the blame for deprivation on it, for the past is gone. You cannot really not let go what has already gone.” – Meditations From A Course In Miracles
I heard it before and I know that I cannot change the past. What is done is done and there is no sense in crying over it. So, then, why do I still shed tears over something I have no power to control?
It seems as though my present self cannot release the memories of my past hurts. After all, I cannot really let go of something that is already gone. Throughout this journey in Meditations From A Course in Miracles, I came upon a fascinating discovery within regards to one of my friends.
Wally Witkowski is a man in which time seems to stand still for. As the years tick by, he still manages to live a fulfilling life in a beautifully wooden acreage of land in the thumb of Michiganwith his sister as his closest neighbor. I have had the honor to meet Wally and get to know him. He has a heart of gold and a love for animals; a lively spirit and a charitable heart. His compassion led him to raise thousands of dollars for a local “no-kill” animal shelter for the past six years. And he is in his late 80’s!
When A Course in Miracles was conceived, Wally became the secondary interpreter to the translation of it into the Polish language. He spent grueling hours in translation so that the message would be adequately represented to those of the Polish language. Imagine spending your days and nights completely submersed in something that was meant to improve the quality of your life. Just the thought of what that would do to a human being as they contemplated and debated the meanings within another language amazes me.
I cherish each of my visits with him and marvel at his kindness and wisdom. His daughter, Helena, introduced us, and what a pleasure it has been. His way of life and example that he has given to his daughter is evident in her life as well. They do struggle just as everyone else who resides on this big blue planet of ours, but they have found a way to find peace and happiness amidst the chaos.
Helenais a therapist, and she often handles the most difficult cases that life can throw at her. Despite the terrible situations that her clients go through, she still strives each day to meet their needs and pass on the lessons that she has learned. Recently, she has been practicing EMDR therapy with a few of her clients and has received amazing results.
EMDR is better known as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It is a form of therapy that helps the mind to reprocess traumatic event. During these events, people will feel intense emotions. For some people, those emotions are so intense that when they relive the memory of that event they will feel the extreme intensity of emotions, again. EMDR therapy releases those intense emotions. Eventually, when the client revisits the memory, they will have a sense of peace from the emotions that they once felt.
When we relive the past and experience those emotions we feel that we can control the situation and change it, but it’s not possible. The past is gone, forever, and it will never return. We need to learn from it and move on. However, some people cannot because they are held back by the intensity of their emotions. EMDR has been proven to work, especially for those who suffer with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
I know that I cannot change the trauma from my own past, but I use the lessons that I have learned along the way. In the meantime, I write about those emotions that I feel, and when I am done writing about them, I can finally find peace and release them.
I may be done with Meditations From A Course in Miracles, but in no way am I done with A Course in Miracles. I intend to revisit the full course in the future to gain greater understanding. I see the way it has enriched Wally’s life and I, too, would like to experience that same peace.