What can a mom do to balance out her home/work life and pursue her dreams? I struggle to find the answer as I care for my family while looking forlornly at my dormant computer. As moms, If we don’t maintain our dreams and put a little effort into them each day, we get lost and begin to doubt our own capabilities. Exhaustion and then depression will set in. All of which are not good for any Mom.
When it comes to my writings, single moms are the pedestal I look to when I feel like giving up. I honor them for forging through the good, the bad and the ugly as they muster every last ounce of strength to do what it takes to care for their children. They tend to work two or more jobs to maintain a livable earning. Their journey is a difficult one and finding time for self-care, let alone to pursue a dream, is no easy task. When a dream becomes an obsession, they manage to carve out a little time each day. Whether it’s in the early morning hours before the household wakes, during their lunch hour, nap time, or at the end of the night before retiring to bed; they find the moments to pursue their own dreams.
I have been back to work at my new job for a while now. I had trepidations about going back to work full time while raising my son. What would it do to my precious time with Wyatt? Will I adjust well? How will he adjust? Between work and raising a toddler, will I be too exhausted to write?
It has been a whirlwind of change, not only for me, but also for my toddler. What I thought would be a quick jaunt home to a joyous 2 year-old during my lunch hour soon spiraled into a fit of screams and heartbreaking pleas for Mama not to leave. And, I never really bargained on late-night pajama parties on my bed while said child kicked away the sandman past the witching hour.
Despite the terrible two’s, and soon-to-be horrible three’s, my son is currently in the ultra-cute-and-fun stage of his life. He is constantly absorbing and learning new things around him. This is the stage I have been yearning for since the first day I held him in my arms. Instead of writing, I have opted to watch him splash in the surf while grabbing handfuls of pepples along Lake Huron’s shoreline as he wonders about the chunkiness of the mud sliding down his arm. We often have lengthily conversations about mostly gibberish while he regales me with the tales of his day. And during our nightly routine, we take a couple of bedtime selfies then revisit the Learning Board one last time before sleep embraces his droopy lids.
The joy of being my son’s mother fills my heart abundantly. It tears me up to leave him in the morning for the convenience of increased numbers in my bank account that tend to flash red by the end of the month; only to be comforted by the sweet bliss of eight full scream-free hours. Even though my writing time has been drastically reduced from ample to scarce, I find that conversing with adults on a daily basis has been intellectually stimulating and inspiring. It has given me ideas for future novels while enriching my knowledge. As a bonus, I am bringing home to my son valuable lessons in commitment, time management, and work ethic that he will observe and learn as he grows.
Like single moms, I am working for the betterment of my family. Balancing motherhood with a career is no easy task, and I can only imagine the struggles they go through to manage this balance alone. There are many moms who are exhausted as the evidence inundates my Facebook feed. We have so much more responsibility than we ever thought we would; whether we are single or even have a partner in life.
Nothing in this world can stop a dreamer from pursuing her dreams. All obstacles can be overcome with a little creative thinking and plenty of effort. After all, JK Rowling produced a magnificent best-selling series as a single mom working to support her family, and she continued to carve out time to write until her writings became her payday. She has written more than a couple dozen books under two different pen names and received a multitude of awards. If this single mom can do it, I am certain any of us can.